Well, if your husband is totally straight, that might suggest that he is no longer into you and has found another woman. But there is another more sobering reality that you might do well to think about; your husband may be a gay man whose blood only boils naturally when he is with another man.
Sounds ridiculous? It really shouldn't because the safest protection of any gay man seeking social respect is within a straight marriage. As this Times article clearly illustrates, many gay men don't want to be so because it is such a difficult life loving another man. The social opprobrium that comes with it pushes totally gay men into often loveless marriages - just to fit into what society expects. The toll on the men and women in such marriages is best left to the Lord to disnteangle, but there is no doubt that it is harrowing at best.
There is nothing like sleeping with a woman when your entire mind is pining to be with a man. But we know that many men fall into this category and have gotten married to try and "marry away" their homosexuality. If you are a woman, pray that you don't fall for such a man because it surely will end in tears of frustration and despair. And Bahati's anti-gay bill is about to drive even more gay Ugandan men into loveless, passionless, empty marriages.
You see, talk about how homosexuality is un-African is just that; talk. But there are thousands of women married to gay men in Uganda and such talk is scant comfort when they are living the trauma of marriage to a man who doesn't love them, and instead would prefer to be with a fellow man. Such women deserve to be with men who love and like women. Yet, the Bahati bill is about to condemn even more women to the pain and suffering that follows accompanies being married to a man who doesn't want you as surely as night follows day.
The Right Honorable Bahati and his friends don't know the half of it of course. How could they?
AfroGay cannot name names but you just have to scratch the surface of many a loveless marriage and you will find that if it is not another woman, it is another man responsible for the strain or lack of interest. Bahati is about to force even more gay men into getting married in order not to end up in jail or in front of a firing squad because of their sexuality.
Take it from one who not only knows, but one who has lived the experience; if you think this bill is about homosexuals alone, you haven't really studied the society you live in well enough. This bill is about to ruin many, many lives. Women and children are about to become unsuspecting victims of the Bahati bill in numbers that were dwindling as gay men accepted who they were and looked for likeminded men. All these are about to be forced back into the closet and/or into staid, passionless marriages.
The solution of course is simple enough - let homosexuals love who they wish and sleep with whoever will sleep with them in the privacy of their homes. Ask any woman what she prefers and she will tell you that she would rather deal with a straight man than have to struggle with a man who cannot get it up for her because his mind is dreaming of another man. There are no tricks a woman can pull with a man who is gay. Gay men belong with gay men and that is all there is to it. But Bahati of course will not know what we are talking about because he is a legistlator who likely doesn't understand that homosexuals cannot be cured since that is who they are.
And if the Bahati bill is passed, prepare for an avalanche of men who arrive late for their nuptials, who disappear for days on end without explanation, who perform sexually only now and then and with no emotion. In other words, prepare for many, many miserable wives crying for a husband when they have a man right there in their home.
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